I Want to Suggest To Someone I Care About That They Consider Seeing A Counsellor. What’s The Best Way To Do It?

Discussing mental health and suggesting professional help to someone can be a delicate matter. It requires sensitivity, empathy, and a non-judgmental approach. Recent research underscores the importance of open communication and supportive interactions in facilitating someone's journey towards seeking counselling or therapy. 

Firstly, it's crucial to create a safe and trusting environment before broaching the subject. Express genuine concern for the individual's well-being and emphasize that you're there to support them. Use empathetic language, such as "I've noticed you've been going through a tough time lately, and I want you to know I'm here for you." 

Highlight specific observations or behaviours that have led you to suggest seeking professional help. For example, "I've noticed you've been withdrawing from activities you used to enjoy," or "I've noticed changes in your mood and energy levels recently." This approach helps to frame the conversation around observable concerns rather than making assumptions about their mental state. 

Avoid using accusatory language or making the person feel judged for their emotions or actions. Instead, focus on expressing care and understanding. Phrases like "It's okay to struggle, and it's okay to ask for help" can help normalize the idea of seeking support. 

Provide information about the benefits of counselling or therapy in a non-threatening manner. You could share personal experiences or anecdotes about how therapy has positively impacted others. Highlight the idea that therapy is a tool for personal growth and self-discovery, rather than a sign of weakness. 

Offer to help them research therapists or counselling services if they're open to the idea. Provide reassurance that seeking professional help is a proactive step towards improving their well-being. Mention that therapists are trained professionals who can offer support and guidance in navigating difficult emotions and life challenges. 

Respect their autonomy and decision-making process. Understand that they may not be ready to seek help immediately, and that's okay. Reiterate that you're there for them whenever they're ready to talk or explore their options further. 

It's essential to follow up on the conversation and continue offering support and encouragement. Check in with them periodically to see how they're doing and if they've made any progress towards seeking help. Avoid pressuring them or making them feel obligated to follow through with your suggestion. 

Remember that everyone's journey towards seeking help is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach. Be patient, compassionate, and understanding throughout the process. 

Suggesting counselling or therapy to someone requires tact, empathy, and respect for their autonomy. By creating a safe and supportive environment, expressing genuine concern, and providing information about the benefits of seeking help, you can help facilitate a productive conversation about mental health support. Ultimately, the goal is to empower the individual to make informed decisions about their well-being and offer ongoing support as they navigate their journey towards healing and self-discovery.

Crucible Personal Development is a private psychotherapy and counselling practice in Preston, Lancashire.